This idea has been inspired by another blog -- though the views are my own.

Sometimes it's difficult, when someone's on the rack of anxiety, to know how to behave. 
The following is what I'd ask someone for, if I could, when I have to go to that excruciating, lonely place: 

If you'd be so kind... 

[1] Please don't judge me. 

[2] Reassure me, and do so honestly. If you can do this, it means such a lot.  

[3] Please don't look at me with pity in your eyes. 

[4] Do indulge me just a little -- but not too much. 

[5] Please don't put on a condescending voice or talk too slowly: I've not lost my mind.

[6] Listen to me... even if I repeat myself sometimes; I'm mostly trying to get my thoughts straight.  

[7] Please don't talk to me as if I'm stupid: my rational sense remains largely intact, even if my communication skills have dimmed. 

[8] Keep things light in tone... but feel free to remain serious. 

[9] Remind me of possibilities... rather than of all the closed/locked doors in life. Doing so can indeed make all the difference.

Thank you.


  1. Yup. Especially your point about listening, and needing to get our thoughts straight. Don’t know if it was intentional, but I loved that you left the 10th spot for us to fill in. (A hint of OCD tells me lists MUST end at a logical stopping point).

    [10] Please don’t tell me you know EXACTLY how this feels. My crazy has spent years learning how to be unique.

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    1. Thanks Gabe. Haha it wasn’t explicit, but after I deleted my original point 10th point — which was essentially point [2] repeated in different words — I did think that there was a deliberate space for someone else to add a tenth!
      Yours is very good… there’s few things worse than someone with a “been there, done that” attitude to any kind of suffering, which undermines its validity, in many ways.

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